You Get It From Your Parents
November 26th, 2009 | 
Author: . . . or others who were surrounding you when you were young. Even from birth, those around you set the framework for your responses and your attitudes.
Just recently on TV there was a program called “Sex Rehab” dealing with addictions. Everyone who had come in for treatment had issues at a young age, separating parents, or something else that drove their addictions.
Perhaps it was something like this:
” You should have cleaned your room better than that.”
“If you sang like that in the whole concert, the show would have been a knockout.”
When you hear those words and statements similar to them, you draw conclusions — conclusions about yourself.
And too often, young people conclude “I’m not good enough.”
They might have drawn other conclusions, such as, “My parents are having a bad day, I’ll ignore them today.” Or, “Maybe those making the comments are just unreasonable.”
But no, they concluded something about themselves, not their parents. They said, “I’m not good enough.”
Now, 30 years later, you wonder why your work is often failing, your relationships are miserable, and you just don’t seem to get your act together. And what happened when you were 3, or 5, or 7, is now driving you nuts.
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